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Every month on this blog, I share my professional views and ongoing learning about life, change and relationships.

These posts are my personal reflections that offer tips and guidance for people looking to live their best lives possible.

Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

  In the past few weeks, as we try to adjust to “new normals,” many clients have expressed wanting to reclaim control in their lives in these uncertain times. Many have said: “I don’t like change” and “I am feeling uncomfortable with so much uncertainty and a lack of control.” There have also been many questions about “when will things go back to normal?” which had me thinking about why so...

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Time to Slow Down

Time to Slow Down

Time.  Time to be. Time to stop and appreciate what is around you and to do something for yourself. Appreciation is an important concept in positive psychology. It is important to practice being grateful for what you have and for what is around you. Most things that make our life meaningful and happy are typically the small things that happen every day. “When I appreciate the good, the good...

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Find Your Strength.  Find Yourself.

Find Your Strength. Find Yourself.

Do you know where your strengths lie?  What do you feel comes naturally to you? Imagine we were able to flip the lens through which we view ourselves. What if, rather than focusing on our areas of need and weakness, we focused entirely on seeing ourselves through our personal strengths? What would that look like? And how empowering would it feel? We live in a world that is challenging and full...

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Put Down Your To-Do List

Put Down Your To-Do List

Turn off "I should" and "I have to"!Personal growth, learning, introspection and new habits—as a personal development and relationship coach, I am all for these things. I personally live and breathe these positive practices and I encourage my clients to do the same. Yet, today I want to give you another option, that it’s okay to do the opposite. It’s okay to just be. Do less, not more. Focus on...

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Swinging Through Transition

Swinging Through Transition

Change. It’s constant. And it’s in every area of our lives: health, work, family, and internally. I say it often because it’s true: change is the only constant in life. It’s a part of life. Period. So why do we have so much trouble with it? As humans, our dislike for change is so strong that even when we are unhappy with something, we are reluctant to modify it. We often just keep things as they...

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Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing relationships is difficult at the best of times. As we face the global COVID-19 pandemic, we are reminded of how small the world really is and how similar we are. At the same time, we cannot help but see just how unique we are as individuals.  One thing that I am reminded of during this time of physical isolation, is our deep, unwavering need for human connection. We need each other. We...

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Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

“That was great!”    “You are fantastic!”    “You are so talented!”     Compliments are so important to our well-being. For some reason, however, they are also hard to receive. We want compliments, but then we don’t.    For some of my clients, as we discover and clarify their qualities and strengths, I can see how hard it is for them to hear their positive attributes said out...

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Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Why You Should Disagree With Others You should disagree with others. No, really. And then you should agree to disagree.  Recently, after a day of coaching sessions focused on conflict and relationships, I realized, once again, how little we are trained in life on how to create strong, fulfilling relationships. So many of us try to avoid conflict in our lives, yet it is often the very thing that...

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Finding Your Courage

Finding Your Courage

As more weeks pass during this pandemic, and we continue to adapt to a “new normal” that keeps changing, I have been exploring the concept of what it means to have courage.   Does courage mean that we feel in control and are not feeling afraid? Does courage mean that we are constantly positive and taking action?    The dictionary defines courage as “the ability to do something that...

read more
The Secret To Thriving Relationships

The Secret To Thriving Relationships

In a recent post, I shared the story of my paternal grandmother’s “magic” rings. Whenever someone in our family gets married, she shares her parents’ wedding rings with the bride and groom for the wedding ceremony. After the ceremony, she immediately takes them back. But, with the rings, my grandmother believes she is passing along the “good luck” of the successfully married couples who...

read more
Paradigm Shift

Paradigm Shift

A paradigm is a frame of reference. A person's paradigm is how they see the world based on all the information that they have gathered and the beliefs that they possess.  At times of crisis, it is often helpful to reflect on the paradigms that we have set for ourselves. These can affect our perspective and even impact our ability to cope—good or bad—during difficult periods. As I prepared this...

read more
Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing relationships is difficult at the best of times. As we face the global COVID-19 pandemic, we are reminded of how small the world really is and how similar we are. At the same time, we cannot help but see just how unique we are as individuals.  One thing that I am reminded of during this time of physical isolation, is our deep, unwavering need for human connection. We need each other. We...

read more
Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Why You Should Disagree With Others You should disagree with others. No, really. And then you should agree to disagree.  Recently, after a day of coaching sessions focused on conflict and relationships, I realized, once again, how little we are trained in life on how to create strong, fulfilling relationships. So many of us try to avoid conflict in our lives, yet it is often the very thing that...

read more
Don’t Assume. Just Ask.

Don’t Assume. Just Ask.

Making assumptions is common in relationships, but it is also what leads to conflict. Many people in relationships assume that the other person knows what they mean and what they want. Alas, most of the time this is NOT the case. Valentine’s Day is today and even though it’s not something I celebrate, I realize it offers us a great opportunity to highlight the importance of asking our partners...

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Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Welcome to 2018! A new year offers so many new possibilities. What are your wishes for 2018? Who do you wish to be? Personally, I have been thinking about this a lot. Over the break, I watched the movie The Last Word about an older woman at the end of her life. I loved the movie and one of the quotes from the main character has stuck with me: Please don’t have a nice day....

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Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Improve Your Relationship By “Double Clicking”

It always amazes me how two people can view the exact same situation in completely different ways. Before I begin a mediation or relationship coaching session, I always meet with each person individually to hear their own viewpoint. I want to learn more about their reality and better understand their perspective. What’s fascinating is that what each person shares with me always makes sense to...

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New Video Series

New Video Series

Physical Isolation - A Time of Personal Growth This is a series of 60-second videos that offers tips and guidance on how to take this time to focus on the things that matter to you and to help you develop better insights into what makes you happy. I'm sharing these videos on Facebook, Instagram and my YouTube Channel, as well as posting them here on my blog, so you have lots of ways to follow...

read more
Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

read more
New Season, New Intentions

New Season, New Intentions

Like many people, I tend to view September as a second new year. It’s when most of us return to routines after a less-structured summer and we get the chance to refocus on new (or revised) goals for the rest of the year. If you happened to make New Year’s resolutions in January—or set some new intentions for yourself—hopefully, a few of them stuck and have become a reality. If you are like most...

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Your legacy begins today

Your legacy begins today

As we approach the end of the year, it’s a great time for introspection. Many of us will start thinking about plans and resolutions for the New Year. Instead of debating whether this practice is a good idea or not, I invite you to try a different kind of reflection instead. Think about the legacy you want to leave behind when you die. Have you ever considered what your obituary would say? I...

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Small gifts of gratitude. Big impact.

Small gifts of gratitude. Big impact.

The holiday season often brings many opportunities to visit with friends and family. As human beings, it is our connection with others that makes us thrive. Here are two simple ways to make someone else—and yourself—smile this month. Show gratitude Science confirms it: expressing gratitude has a profoundly positive effect on both the person who receives the message and the person expressing it....

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Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Just a few weeks ago my daughter and I were stranded in a hotel room during an unexpected ice storm. With no place to go, we sat together and rewatched The Last Word. In the movie, a young woman hates her job but is too afraid to make a change. The older main character, who is dying, advises her to “fail spectacularly”: “You don’t make mistakes. Mistakes make you. They make you smarter. They...

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Reality Bites, But It Doesn’t Have To

Reality Bites, But It Doesn’t Have To

Good or bad, we choose how we behave, react and think. It is these many small choices that make up our overall life course. Do you have a favourite book that you return to again and again for guidance or inspiration? For me, Tal Ben-Shahar’s Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness is one. This wonderful guide inspires me to live and work better. Ben-Shahar’s central premise is...

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Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

  In the past few weeks, as we try to adjust to “new normals,” many clients have expressed wanting to reclaim control in their lives in these uncertain times. Many have said: “I don’t like change” and “I am feeling uncomfortable with so much uncertainty and a lack of control.” There have also been many questions about “when will things go back to normal?” which had me thinking about why so...

read more
Find your values, find your way

Find your values, find your way

With so many questions about what is happening in the world right now, I have struggled with what to write. But whenever I question what my ideal role should be during uncertain times, I always return my core beliefs and foundation. In other words, I return to my values.    Now, I fully recognize that it might feel superficial, at a time like this, to focus on our values, but I would...

read more
Finding Your Courage

Finding Your Courage

As more weeks pass during this pandemic, and we continue to adapt to a “new normal” that keeps changing, I have been exploring the concept of what it means to have courage.   Does courage mean that we feel in control and are not feeling afraid? Does courage mean that we are constantly positive and taking action?    The dictionary defines courage as “the ability to do something that...

read more
Find Your Strength.  Find Yourself.

Find Your Strength. Find Yourself.

Do you know where your strengths lie?  What do you feel comes naturally to you? Imagine we were able to flip the lens through which we view ourselves. What if, rather than focusing on our areas of need and weakness, we focused entirely on seeing ourselves through our personal strengths? What would that look like? And how empowering would it feel? We live in a world that is challenging and full...

read more
The Secret To Thriving Relationships

The Secret To Thriving Relationships

In a recent post, I shared the story of my paternal grandmother’s “magic” rings. Whenever someone in our family gets married, she shares her parents’ wedding rings with the bride and groom for the wedding ceremony. After the ceremony, she immediately takes them back. But, with the rings, my grandmother believes she is passing along the “good luck” of the successfully married couples who...

read more
Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

read more
Find Your Calm in the Chaos

Find Your Calm in the Chaos

It goes without saying: these are unprecedented times. As the world grapples with the spread of COVID-19, there is a lot of uncertainty. And, knowing that this virus could have a major impact on our wellbeing and our loved ones, it is no surprise that many of us are feeling anxious and scared. That is a common response when things happen beyond our control.   As countries close their...

read more
Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

A few weeks ago, the world lost a special human being. This beautiful soul was a client of mine for the past year. Every two weeks, we would get together to chat. Our discussions often centered around his special philosophy of life or his worries about the future, but the one thing we regularly discussed is something I think many of us struggle with: what we believe we should do versus what we...

read more
Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

  In the past few weeks, as we try to adjust to “new normals,” many clients have expressed wanting to reclaim control in their lives in these uncertain times. Many have said: “I don’t like change” and “I am feeling uncomfortable with so much uncertainty and a lack of control.” There have also been many questions about “when will things go back to normal?” which had me thinking about why so...

read more
Find your values, find your way

Find your values, find your way

With so many questions about what is happening in the world right now, I have struggled with what to write. But whenever I question what my ideal role should be during uncertain times, I always return my core beliefs and foundation. In other words, I return to my values.    Now, I fully recognize that it might feel superficial, at a time like this, to focus on our values, but I would...

read more
Finding Your Courage

Finding Your Courage

As more weeks pass during this pandemic, and we continue to adapt to a “new normal” that keeps changing, I have been exploring the concept of what it means to have courage.   Does courage mean that we feel in control and are not feeling afraid? Does courage mean that we are constantly positive and taking action?    The dictionary defines courage as “the ability to do something that...

read more
Find Your Strength.  Find Yourself.

Find Your Strength. Find Yourself.

Do you know where your strengths lie?  What do you feel comes naturally to you? Imagine we were able to flip the lens through which we view ourselves. What if, rather than focusing on our areas of need and weakness, we focused entirely on seeing ourselves through our personal strengths? What would that look like? And how empowering would it feel? We live in a world that is challenging and full...

read more
Paradigm Shift

Paradigm Shift

A paradigm is a frame of reference. A person's paradigm is how they see the world based on all the information that they have gathered and the beliefs that they possess.  At times of crisis, it is often helpful to reflect on the paradigms that we have set for ourselves. These can affect our perspective and even impact our ability to cope—good or bad—during difficult periods. As I prepared this...

read more
New Video Series

New Video Series

Physical Isolation - A Time of Personal Growth This is a series of 60-second videos that offers tips and guidance on how to take this time to focus on the things that matter to you and to help you develop better insights into what makes you happy. I'm sharing these videos on Facebook, Instagram and my YouTube Channel, as well as posting them here on my blog, so you have lots of ways to follow...

read more
Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

read more
Find Your Calm in the Chaos

Find Your Calm in the Chaos

It goes without saying: these are unprecedented times. As the world grapples with the spread of COVID-19, there is a lot of uncertainty. And, knowing that this virus could have a major impact on our wellbeing and our loved ones, it is no surprise that many of us are feeling anxious and scared. That is a common response when things happen beyond our control.   As countries close their...

read more
Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

A few weeks ago, the world lost a special human being. This beautiful soul was a client of mine for the past year. Every two weeks, we would get together to chat. Our discussions often centered around his special philosophy of life or his worries about the future, but the one thing we regularly discussed is something I think many of us struggle with: what we believe we should do versus what we...

read more
New Season, New Intentions

New Season, New Intentions

Like many people, I tend to view September as a second new year. It’s when most of us return to routines after a less-structured summer and we get the chance to refocus on new (or revised) goals for the rest of the year. If you happened to make New Year’s resolutions in January—or set some new intentions for yourself—hopefully, a few of them stuck and have become a reality. If you are like most...

read more
Your legacy begins today

Your legacy begins today

As we approach the end of the year, it’s a great time for introspection. Many of us will start thinking about plans and resolutions for the New Year. Instead of debating whether this practice is a good idea or not, I invite you to try a different kind of reflection instead. Think about the legacy you want to leave behind when you die. Have you ever considered what your obituary would say? I...

read more
Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Just a few weeks ago my daughter and I were stranded in a hotel room during an unexpected ice storm. With no place to go, we sat together and rewatched The Last Word. In the movie, a young woman hates her job but is too afraid to make a change. The older main character, who is dying, advises her to “fail spectacularly”: “You don’t make mistakes. Mistakes make you. They make you smarter. They...

read more
The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

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Make September Count!

Make September Count!

SEIZE THAT OPPORTUNITY September is here. Kids are back to school and the days are starting to get shorter.The arrival of this month often marks new beginnings with new routines and new energy. And this is what makes it an ideal time to ensure that 2017 ends the way we want it to. With just a third of the year left, here is our opportunity to give one last push toward reaching the goals we set...

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Why Is It So Hard To Change?

Why Is It So Hard To Change?

I have been enjoying the slower pace of summer by reading some interesting books, relevant to my work. One of the books, Changing to Thrive by James and Janice Prochaska, explains the different stages people go through when making important behavioural changes in their lives. I first studied the Prochaska model of change during my master studies some 20 years ago. So much has changed...

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