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Every month on this blog, I share my professional views and ongoing learning about life, change and relationships.

These posts are my personal reflections that offer tips and guidance for people looking to live their best lives possible.

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing relationships is difficult at the best of times. As we face the global COVID-19 pandemic, we are reminded of how small the world really is and how similar we are. At the same time, we cannot help but see just how unique we are as individuals.  One thing that I am reminded of during this time of physical isolation, is our deep, unwavering need for human connection. We need each other. We...

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Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

“That was great!”    “You are fantastic!”    “You are so talented!”     Compliments are so important to our well-being. For some reason, however, they are also hard to receive. We want compliments, but then we don’t.    For some of my clients, as we discover and clarify their qualities and strengths, I can see how hard it is for them to hear their positive attributes said out...

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Your legacy begins today

Your legacy begins today

As we approach the end of the year, it’s a great time for introspection. Many of us will start thinking about plans and resolutions for the New Year. Instead of debating whether this practice is a good idea or not, I invite you to try a different kind of reflection instead. Think about the legacy you want to leave behind when you die. Have you ever considered what your obituary would say? I...

read more
Small gifts. Big impact.

Small gifts. Big impact.

The holiday season often brings many opportunities to visit with friends and family. As human beings, it is our connection with others that makes us thrive. Here are two simple ways to make someone else—and yourself—smile this month. Show gratitude Science confirms it: expressing gratitude has a profoundly positive effect on both the person who receives the message and the person expressing it....

read more
Find the “motion” in “emotion”

Find the “motion” in “emotion”

I apply many of the teachings from the science of Positive Psychology into my life. The one that I have integrated the most, however, is the concept of “being human” and accepting our emotions. We may not have control over what we feel, but we do have control over our responses to those emotions. We can still choose how we behave and move forward, despite...

read more
Calling Time On “Being Busy”

Calling Time On “Being Busy”

How many times do you hear yourself or others declare, “I’m so busy!” We are a society that privileges being “busy.” Somehow our worth or sense of success is tied to our ability to multitask and to appear busier than everybody else. A few weeks ago, I had the privilege to hear Tom Raths speak at the Canadian Positive Psychology conference. He spoke about the importance of making...

read more
Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Just a few weeks ago my daughter and I were stranded in a hotel room during an unexpected ice storm. With no place to go, we sat together and rewatched The Last Word. In the movie, a young woman hates her job but is too afraid to make a change. The older main character, who is dying, advises her to “fail spectacularly”: “You don’t make mistakes. Mistakes make you. They make you smarter. They...

read more
Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Vulnerability may look like a sign of weakness, but the truth is, it actually takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable. A few weeks ago I met with a business coach to seek assistance with my marketing and sales. She offered some straight-up critiques about my website, brand messaging and the need for me to clarify who my niche is. With each comment, the knot in my stomach twisted a little...

read more

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing relationships is difficult at the best of times. As we face the global COVID-19 pandemic, we are reminded of how small the world really is and how similar we are. At the same time, we cannot help but see just how unique we are as individuals.  One thing that I am reminded of during this time of physical isolation, is our deep, unwavering need for human connection. We need each other. We...

read more
Don’t Assume. Just Ask.

Don’t Assume. Just Ask.

Valentine’s Day is today and even though it’s not something I celebrate, I realize it offers us a great opportunity to highlight the importance of asking our partners what we want from them.Making assumptions is common in relationships, but it is also what leads to conflict. Many people in relationships assume that the other person knows what they mean and what they want. Alas, most of the...

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Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Welcome to 2018! A new year offers so many new possibilities. What are your wishes for 2018? Who do you wish to be? Personally, I have been thinking about this a lot. Over the break, I watched the movie The Last Word about an older woman at the end of her life. I loved the movie and one of the quotes from the main character has stuck with me: Please don’t have a nice day....

read more
Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Improve Relationship By “Double Clicking”

It always amazes me how two people can view the exact same situation in completely different ways. Before I begin a mediation or relationship coaching session, I always meet with each person individually to hear their own viewpoint. I want to learn more about their reality and better understand their perspective. What’s fascinating is that what each person shares with me always makes sense to...

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Why the Right People can Help us Make the Right Changes

Why the Right People can Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

read more
Celebrate motherhood and all the changes that it brings

Celebrate motherhood and all the changes that it brings

In front of me, as I write this post, are pictures of me over the years with my kids. There they are as newborns, with me looking completely exhausted. Soon they are toddlers, then school-aged and, suddenly, they are taller than me! Each step in their development meant a new stage for both of us. Their needs would change and my role would have to adapt accordingly. This often meant me needing to...

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Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

It seems that as I get older — and hopefully a little wiser — that the days, weeks and months fly by faster than ever. It feels like yesterday that I was sending you my best wishes for 2016, and encouraging you to focus on what you did do and what worked in 2015. Read it here! Now, as we bid farewell to 2016, I’d like to return to a topic I have reflected on often this year: building stronger...

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The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

As human beings we need to feel connected to others. We are social animals and we need positive interactions to keep us feeling fulfilled and happy. These connections, however, don’t always come easy. We need to have healthy channels of communication in order to achieve connections with others in our personal and work lives. Yet, interpersonal communication is challenging. It involves different...

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New Video Series

New Video Series

I''ve just released the first three videos in my new series: Physical Isolation - A Time of Personal Growth This is a series of 60-second videos that offers tips and guidance on how to take this time to focus on the things that matter to you and to help you develop better insights into what makes you happy. I'm sharing these videos on Facebook, Instagram and my YouTube Channel, as well as...

read more
Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

read more
Your legacy begins today

Your legacy begins today

As we approach the end of the year, it’s a great time for introspection. Many of us will start thinking about plans and resolutions for the New Year. Instead of debating whether this practice is a good idea or not, I invite you to try a different kind of reflection instead. Think about the legacy you want to leave behind when you die. Have you ever considered what your obituary would say? I...

read more
Small gifts. Big impact.

Small gifts. Big impact.

The holiday season often brings many opportunities to visit with friends and family. As human beings, it is our connection with others that makes us thrive. Here are two simple ways to make someone else—and yourself—smile this month. Show gratitude Science confirms it: expressing gratitude has a profoundly positive effect on both the person who receives the message and the person expressing it....

read more
Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Just a few weeks ago my daughter and I were stranded in a hotel room during an unexpected ice storm. With no place to go, we sat together and rewatched The Last Word. In the movie, a young woman hates her job but is too afraid to make a change. The older main character, who is dying, advises her to “fail spectacularly”: “You don’t make mistakes. Mistakes make you. They make you smarter. They...

read more
Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Reality Bites, But It Doesn’t Have To

Do you have a favourite book that you return to again and again for guidance or inspiration? For me, Tal Ben-Shahar’s Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness is one. This wonderful guide inspires me to live and work better. Ben-Shahar’s central premise is that we are always making choices at every moment in our lives—whether we realize it or not. Good...

read more
What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

I consider myself to be a life learner. Right now I am in the middle of a year-long certificate in Positive Psychology. It has been a fantastic journey and last month, as part of my training, I attended a week-long retreat in the beautiful town of Tepoztlán, Mexico (picture above). In this intensive week of scientific learning and deep introspection, one of the lecturers put on the Michael...

read more

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

read more
Find Your Calm in the Chaos

Find Your Calm in the Chaos

It goes without saying: these are unprecedented times. As the world grapples with the spread of COVID-19, there is a lot of uncertainty. And, knowing that this virus could have a major impact on our wellbeing and our loved ones, it is no surprise that many of us are feeling anxious and scared. That is a common response when things happen beyond our control.   As countries close their...

read more
Small gifts. Big impact.

Small gifts. Big impact.

The holiday season often brings many opportunities to visit with friends and family. As human beings, it is our connection with others that makes us thrive. Here are two simple ways to make someone else—and yourself—smile this month. Show gratitude Science confirms it: expressing gratitude has a profoundly positive effect on both the person who receives the message and the person expressing it....

read more
Find the “motion” in “emotion”

Find the “motion” in “emotion”

I apply many of the teachings from the science of Positive Psychology into my life. The one that I have integrated the most, however, is the concept of “being human” and accepting our emotions. We may not have control over what we feel, but we do have control over our responses to those emotions. We can still choose how we behave and move forward, despite...

read more
Calling Time On “Being Busy”

Calling Time On “Being Busy”

How many times do you hear yourself or others declare, “I’m so busy!” We are a society that privileges being “busy.” Somehow our worth or sense of success is tied to our ability to multitask and to appear busier than everybody else. A few weeks ago, I had the privilege to hear Tom Raths speak at the Canadian Positive Psychology conference. He spoke about the importance of making...

read more
Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Vulnerability may look like a sign of weakness, but the truth is, it actually takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable. A few weeks ago I met with a business coach to seek assistance with my marketing and sales. She offered some straight-up critiques about my website, brand messaging and the need for me to clarify who my niche is. With each comment, the knot in my stomach twisted a little...

read more
Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Reality Bites, But It Doesn’t Have To

Do you have a favourite book that you return to again and again for guidance or inspiration? For me, Tal Ben-Shahar’s Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness is one. This wonderful guide inspires me to live and work better. Ben-Shahar’s central premise is that we are always making choices at every moment in our lives—whether we realize it or not. Good...

read more
New Video Series

New Video Series

I''ve just released the first three videos in my new series: Physical Isolation - A Time of Personal Growth This is a series of 60-second videos that offers tips and guidance on how to take this time to focus on the things that matter to you and to help you develop better insights into what makes you happy. I'm sharing these videos on Facebook, Instagram and my YouTube Channel, as well as...

read more
Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

read more
Find Your Calm in the Chaos

Find Your Calm in the Chaos

It goes without saying: these are unprecedented times. As the world grapples with the spread of COVID-19, there is a lot of uncertainty. And, knowing that this virus could have a major impact on our wellbeing and our loved ones, it is no surprise that many of us are feeling anxious and scared. That is a common response when things happen beyond our control.   As countries close their...

read more
Find the “motion” in “emotion”

Find the “motion” in “emotion”

I apply many of the teachings from the science of Positive Psychology into my life. The one that I have integrated the most, however, is the concept of “being human” and accepting our emotions. We may not have control over what we feel, but we do have control over our responses to those emotions. We can still choose how we behave and move forward, despite...

read more
What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

I consider myself to be a life learner. Right now I am in the middle of a year-long certificate in Positive Psychology. It has been a fantastic journey and last month, as part of my training, I attended a week-long retreat in the beautiful town of Tepoztlán, Mexico (picture above). In this intensive week of scientific learning and deep introspection, one of the lecturers put on the Michael...

read more
Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Welcome to 2018! A new year offers so many new possibilities. What are your wishes for 2018? Who do you wish to be? Personally, I have been thinking about this a lot. Over the break, I watched the movie The Last Word about an older woman at the end of her life. I loved the movie and one of the quotes from the main character has stuck with me: Please don’t have a nice day....

read more
Why the Right People can Help us Make the Right Changes

Why the Right People can Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

read more
It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

As a young university student, I remember being unable to decide what I wanted to major in. I liked so many different things. Medicine, education, psychology…. I even considered engineering! I was all over the map because I was trying to keep all of my doors open. This is what I had been taught was a wise thing to do. Unfortunately, it left me feeling quite overwhelmed. Today, the older and...

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Your legacy begins today

Your legacy begins today

As we approach the end of the year, it’s a great time for introspection. Many of us will start thinking about plans and resolutions for the New Year. Instead of debating whether this practice is a good idea or not, I invite you to try a different kind of reflection instead. Think about the legacy you want to leave behind when you die. Have you ever considered what your obituary would say? I...

read more
Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Why You Should Fail Spectacularly

Just a few weeks ago my daughter and I were stranded in a hotel room during an unexpected ice storm. With no place to go, we sat together and rewatched The Last Word. In the movie, a young woman hates her job but is too afraid to make a change. The older main character, who is dying, advises her to “fail spectacularly”: “You don’t make mistakes. Mistakes make you. They make you smarter. They...

read more
Why the Right People can Help us Make the Right Changes

Why the Right People can Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

read more
Make September Count!

Make September Count!

SEIZE THAT OPPORTUNITY September is here. Kids are back to school and the days are starting to get shorter.The arrival of this month often marks new beginnings with new routines and new energy. And this is what makes it an ideal time to ensure that 2017 ends the way we want it to. With just a third of the year left, here is our opportunity to give one last push toward reaching the goals we set...

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Why Is It So Hard To Change?

Why Is It So Hard To Change?

I have been enjoying the slower pace of summer by reading some interesting books, relevant to my work. One of the books, Changing to Thrive by James and Janice Prochaska, explains the different stages people go through when making important behavioural changes in their lives. I first studied the Prochaska model of change during my master studies some 20 years ago. So much has changed...

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How to Reach the End Before you Begin

How to Reach the End Before you Begin

Just as nature shows us every year, transitions are a part of life. Soon after one season begins, another arrives. Change is the cycle of natural life and the natural cycle of our own lives as well. With these constant changes in nature surrounding us, we might assume that humans would adapt easily to the constant changes in our own lives. For some reason, however, we often cling to what we had...

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Celebrate motherhood and all the changes that it brings

Celebrate motherhood and all the changes that it brings

In front of me, as I write this post, are pictures of me over the years with my kids. There they are as newborns, with me looking completely exhausted. Soon they are toddlers, then school-aged and, suddenly, they are taller than me! Each step in their development meant a new stage for both of us. Their needs would change and my role would have to adapt accordingly. This often meant me needing to...

read more

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