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Every month on this blog, I share my professional views and ongoing learning about life, change and relationships.

These posts are my personal reflections that offer tips and guidance for people looking to live their best lives possible.

Work-Life Balance is Impossible

Work-Life Balance is Impossible

May is such a beautiful month. It is my favourite time of year in Toronto as nature becomes fully alive. Flowers bloom and trees become a special and unique green that says “fresh and new”.  Birds are chirping, the sun is shining and the days are longer. Nature is telling us to breathe, to be hopeful and to find new possibilities. Hope and possibility. New beginnings. It seems like the perfect...

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That’s What Friends Are For 

That’s What Friends Are For 

I don’t have hundreds of friends on Instagram or Facebook.  If I threw a party I couldn’t invite a large group of people.  I don’t have many friends. I have a few very close friends in different parts of the world.  A few weeks ago, I had an amazing opportunity to spend three days in a small Mexican village with three of my friends from high school. This is us, 40 years ago and now! (Don’t we...

read more
How Much Responsibility is Too Much? 

How Much Responsibility is Too Much? 

I just listened to a webinar that suggested we take 100% responsibility in all areas of our lives.  Sounds beautiful AND unachievable. I was tempted to leave the webinar AND I was reminded how I like to say that in our personal and professional connections, both sides are 100% responsible for what happens within the relationship.What does being 100% responsible actually mean? We need to know...

read more
Stop Fearing Failure

Stop Fearing Failure

We are told that failure is part of learning and that the only way to grow and create change is to step outside of our comfort zone. We know that the only people who do not fail are the ones who aren’t doing anything.Despite knowing all of these things, most of us fear and even hate failure. As humans we like to feel in control and we like to predict results.  In a discussion about next steps in...

read more
I am a Magnificent Normal Person and so are you!

I am a Magnificent Normal Person and so are you!

A new year offers an opportunity to change and to start new things. It is also an opportunity to become more aware of our strengths in this ever-changing, wonderful and challenging world.   A few weeks ago I was reminded of a simple but powerful concept. Like many of you, I am  A Magnificent Normal Person There is power and liberation that comes from accepting that we can be both...

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STOP.  December is here again.

STOP.  December is here again.

It is hard to believe that it is December already and we are almost through another year. At the same time, it has been a long and difficult year for many of us.  As I raked thousands of leaves from my garden this past weekend I had to accept that winter has arrived. It reminded me that time doesn’t stop and that our lives are constantly changing.  I am often trying to inspire you to stop and...

read more
Time to Renovate

Time to Renovate

You have probably heard people say that they are going through a midlife crisis or that they are struggling and feeling stuck.I felt this way over the summer. Things just felt a bit off and I was depleted. I was also lonely working from home. I decided to take some time to slow down.I allowed myself to just be with whatever came up. I became curious about my feelings and what they might be...

read more
Who Do You Want To Be?

Who Do You Want To Be?

Time is like a roll of toilet paper. When you are young each year feels longer than the last, and then as you age time feels shorter and shorter. Time flies by. Some weeks feel very long but then suddenly we are approaching the last quarter of the year. Can you believe it is already September? As we settle back into our routines do you have goals that you are still trying to achieve?During...

read more

Authentic Communication

Authentic Communication

Relationships are challenging, despite the fact that we work with people all of the time, we care about the people that our organizations serve, we care about the people we lead, and we want good relationships with our leaders.   It can feel as if people don’t understand what we are saying, what we are trying to do or what we need from them. The impact that we are having on others might not...

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CONFLICT MANAGEMENT WITHIN OUR CONTROL

CONFLICT MANAGEMENT WITHIN OUR CONTROL

I have always enjoyed observing people. As a teenager, I would sit with my grandmother in a coffee shop and wonder about the stories of the people around us. I have spent the last decade as a leadership and communication coach and yet I am still surprised by how wonderful and complicated human relationships are. What does the word conflict mean to you? Does it make you think of disagreement,...

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Lessons from a Marriage

Lessons from a Marriage

Every day, my 90-year-old neighbours hold hands while they walk around the block. It is amazing to see them support each other so tenderly at that age.    I am celebrating 30 years of marriage this month and I have been reflecting on what I have learned about relationships both as a partner and as a conflict and communication coach. What can we learn from successful marriages that we might...

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Communication is Key: 6 Tools for Good Communication

Communication is Key: 6 Tools for Good Communication

We need positive connections with others in order to feel happy and fulfilled, but relationships can be complicated. How can we improve our personal and professional relationships? Communication is key.   As a leadership and communication coach I spend my days exploring the many different tools we have to better communicate with others. Good communication can be learned and adapted to our...

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Moments of Clarity

Moments of Clarity

I've had many moments of clarity over the past few months.  One of them has to do with connections. During the pandemic I missed connecting with others. As the world returns to normal I find myself awestruck by small things that I took for granted before, like enjoying a meal at a restaurant, going to a concert or inviting friends over for dinner.  This feeling is a true testament to the...

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The Power of Words

The Power of Words

Words are powerful. They help us communicate with others and they create an impact. Words that we use internally are just as powerful as words that we say out loud when it comes to how we feel and how we perceive our reality. What are the words that you use most often?   FOUR FAVOURITE WORDS As a coach, I have spent thousands of hours in conversations with clients. I often hear these words:...

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Accepting Help: Just Say “Thank you!”

Accepting Help: Just Say “Thank you!”

Why do we so often respond to someone doing something for us by telling them that they shouldn’t have bothered or that it wasn’t necessary? My grandmother Sarita, one of the wisest people I have ever known, would get upset if you gave one of these polite responses when she did something for you or gave you something. She would tell you to simply thank her or tell her that you appreciate it. I...

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Asking for Help

Asking for Help

It should be easy. Why wouldn’t we ask for help? We constantly help others. We have different strengths and we know that we can learn from those around us. We have our friends, family, colleagues and community.  And yet, somehow, my clients often say “I don’t like asking for help” or “I should be able to do this on my own” or “I don’t need to ask, they should know”. Why is it so hard to ask for...

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Work-Life Balance is Impossible

Work-Life Balance is Impossible

May is such a beautiful month. It is my favourite time of year in Toronto as nature becomes fully alive. Flowers bloom and trees become a special and unique green that says “fresh and new”.  Birds are chirping, the sun is shining and the days are longer. Nature is telling us to breathe, to be hopeful and to find new possibilities. Hope and possibility. New beginnings. It seems like the perfect...

read more
Be Magnificent

Be Magnificent

Storytelling is a powerful way to communicate and transmit our messages.   Stories are what we remember and relate to. As a leadership and communication coach who likes sharing knowledge, I wanted to learn more about what makes a story work as a tool to transmit a message.   For the past few weeks I have had the privilege to learn from one of my mentors, inspirational speaker and...

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Lessons from a Marriage

Lessons from a Marriage

Every day, my 90-year-old neighbours hold hands while they walk around the block. It is amazing to see them support each other so tenderly at that age.    I am celebrating 30 years of marriage this month and I have been reflecting on what I have learned about relationships both as a partner and as a conflict and communication coach. What can we learn from successful marriages that we might...

read more
Second Place is Absolutely Fantastic

Second Place is Absolutely Fantastic

I am not a soccer fan but every four years my family watches the World Cup. I was in Mexico City for the final game in December. Like many people around the world, my family sat together to watch. France and Argentina played a fantastic and very close game. The decision came down to penalties, which is really more about chance than talent. Both teams were excellent.  We watched the trophy...

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Run Towards Your Goals

Run Towards Your Goals

There is a lot we can learn from a 10K run.  Let me share with you my small and imperfect win of the summer.  It has helped me to reflect on life and what we can all do to support our goals.  I ran 10K for the first time in my life at the age of 53!  I know that for many people this wouldn’t be much of an accomplishment, but for me it was a very important one. As I trained for it I reflected on...

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The River of Life

The River of Life

Life is like a river. What do a rollercoaster and a river have in common? I am always learning and gaining new perspectives. Recently one of my clients was describing a rollercoaster of emotions and we realized together that this is not the best metaphor. Why is it so hard to change our habits? How do we deal with the constant challenges and changes of life? Is life like riding a rollercoaster?...

read more
Stop Setting Goals: Do Something More Important First

Stop Setting Goals: Do Something More Important First

Goals aren't enough on their own. Every year at this time, my clients tell me about the goals that their companies organizations are working on for the upcoming year and the resolutions that everyone is making.  Goals are important.  They help us connect to our vision, and, if done correctly, they can help us stay on track and measure our actions. I believe, however, that there is a crucial...

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Can You Be Your Own Best Friend?

Can You Be Your Own Best Friend?

Who is your best friend?   Is it your partner, parent, sibling, long-time friend?   My best friend is myself!  Does that sound selfish and ridiculous? I constantly write and teach on the importance of having strong relationships with others in order to have a happier and more fulfilled life. Today I want to share that the most important relationship that we have is the relationship we...

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Work-Life Balance is Impossible

Work-Life Balance is Impossible

May is such a beautiful month. It is my favourite time of year in Toronto as nature becomes fully alive. Flowers bloom and trees become a special and unique green that says “fresh and new”.  Birds are chirping, the sun is shining and the days are longer. Nature is telling us to breathe, to be hopeful and to find new possibilities. Hope and possibility. New beginnings. It seems like the perfect...

read more
That’s What Friends Are For 

That’s What Friends Are For 

I don’t have hundreds of friends on Instagram or Facebook.  If I threw a party I couldn’t invite a large group of people.  I don’t have many friends. I have a few very close friends in different parts of the world.  A few weeks ago, I had an amazing opportunity to spend three days in a small Mexican village with three of my friends from high school. This is us, 40 years ago and now! (Don’t we...

read more
How Much Responsibility is Too Much? 

How Much Responsibility is Too Much? 

I just listened to a webinar that suggested we take 100% responsibility in all areas of our lives.  Sounds beautiful AND unachievable. I was tempted to leave the webinar AND I was reminded how I like to say that in our personal and professional connections, both sides are 100% responsible for what happens within the relationship.What does being 100% responsible actually mean? We need to know...

read more
Stop Fearing Failure

Stop Fearing Failure

We are told that failure is part of learning and that the only way to grow and create change is to step outside of our comfort zone. We know that the only people who do not fail are the ones who aren’t doing anything.Despite knowing all of these things, most of us fear and even hate failure. As humans we like to feel in control and we like to predict results.  In a discussion about next steps in...

read more
I am a Magnificent Normal Person and so are you!

I am a Magnificent Normal Person and so are you!

A new year offers an opportunity to change and to start new things. It is also an opportunity to become more aware of our strengths in this ever-changing, wonderful and challenging world.   A few weeks ago I was reminded of a simple but powerful concept. Like many of you, I am  A Magnificent Normal Person There is power and liberation that comes from accepting that we can be both...

read more
STOP.  December is here again.

STOP.  December is here again.

It is hard to believe that it is December already and we are almost through another year. At the same time, it has been a long and difficult year for many of us.  As I raked thousands of leaves from my garden this past weekend I had to accept that winter has arrived. It reminded me that time doesn’t stop and that our lives are constantly changing.  I am often trying to inspire you to stop and...

read more
Who Do You Want To Be?

Who Do You Want To Be?

Time is like a roll of toilet paper. When you are young each year feels longer than the last, and then as you age time feels shorter and shorter. Time flies by. Some weeks feel very long but then suddenly we are approaching the last quarter of the year. Can you believe it is already September? As we settle back into our routines do you have goals that you are still trying to achieve?During...

read more
Get Comfortable

Get Comfortable

I hate roller coasters. I hate water slides. I dislike black ski slopes. I always have.    I remember going skiing with my family when I was about 10 years old. I told my parents repeatedly that I didn’t like anything about speed or downhill skiing. My knees shake, my stomach hurts and I hate it. So I asked nicely, in my quiet way, to only go on the green and blue slopes. But my amazing...

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That’s What Friends Are For 

That’s What Friends Are For 

I don’t have hundreds of friends on Instagram or Facebook.  If I threw a party I couldn’t invite a large group of people.  I don’t have many friends. I have a few very close friends in different parts of the world.  A few weeks ago, I had an amazing opportunity to spend three days in a small Mexican village with three of my friends from high school. This is us, 40 years ago and now! (Don’t we...

read more
How Much Responsibility is Too Much? 

How Much Responsibility is Too Much? 

I just listened to a webinar that suggested we take 100% responsibility in all areas of our lives.  Sounds beautiful AND unachievable. I was tempted to leave the webinar AND I was reminded how I like to say that in our personal and professional connections, both sides are 100% responsible for what happens within the relationship.What does being 100% responsible actually mean? We need to know...

read more
Time to Renovate

Time to Renovate

You have probably heard people say that they are going through a midlife crisis or that they are struggling and feeling stuck.I felt this way over the summer. Things just felt a bit off and I was depleted. I was also lonely working from home. I decided to take some time to slow down.I allowed myself to just be with whatever came up. I became curious about my feelings and what they might be...

read more
The Urgency of Life

The Urgency of Life

The past few weeks I supported a friend as his 19-year-old son died. It was a horrible experience that I wish no parent had to go through. During this terrible time I also witnessed the amazing strength that we all have within us and the incredible power of coming together as a community to support each other.   Loss is a powerful reminder of how precious and fragile our lives actually are....

read more
A Fine Balance

A Fine Balance

As a leadership coach with hundreds of clients I often hear people express similar goals. One of them is the very familiar desire to achieve work-life balance. We have all heard it, we talk about it, people need it, but what does it really mean? How do we create it? I remember a conversation with a client many years ago about this. Mandy (not her real name) was a successful executive with small...

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The River of Life

The River of Life

Life is like a river. What do a rollercoaster and a river have in common? I am always learning and gaining new perspectives. Recently one of my clients was describing a rollercoaster of emotions and we realized together that this is not the best metaphor. Why is it so hard to change our habits? How do we deal with the constant challenges and changes of life? Is life like riding a rollercoaster?...

read more
The Endless Cycle of Never Enough

The Endless Cycle of Never Enough

Recent conversations with my clients have reminded me of the complexities of our everyday lives. There are endless roles to be executed and things to be done, and we all have too many priorities and not enough time. It can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. In addition to this, we are faced with having to ‘succeed’ (whatever that means) and feel fulfilled while constantly being on the...

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Accepting Help: Just Say “Thank you!”

Accepting Help: Just Say “Thank you!”

Why do we so often respond to someone doing something for us by telling them that they shouldn’t have bothered or that it wasn’t necessary? My grandmother Sarita, one of the wisest people I have ever known, would get upset if you gave one of these polite responses when she did something for you or gave you something. She would tell you to simply thank her or tell her that you appreciate it. I...

read more
Work-Life Balance is Impossible

Work-Life Balance is Impossible

May is such a beautiful month. It is my favourite time of year in Toronto as nature becomes fully alive. Flowers bloom and trees become a special and unique green that says “fresh and new”.  Birds are chirping, the sun is shining and the days are longer. Nature is telling us to breathe, to be hopeful and to find new possibilities. Hope and possibility. New beginnings. It seems like the perfect...

read more
Stop Fearing Failure

Stop Fearing Failure

We are told that failure is part of learning and that the only way to grow and create change is to step outside of our comfort zone. We know that the only people who do not fail are the ones who aren’t doing anything.Despite knowing all of these things, most of us fear and even hate failure. As humans we like to feel in control and we like to predict results.  In a discussion about next steps in...

read more
I am a Magnificent Normal Person and so are you!

I am a Magnificent Normal Person and so are you!

A new year offers an opportunity to change and to start new things. It is also an opportunity to become more aware of our strengths in this ever-changing, wonderful and challenging world.   A few weeks ago I was reminded of a simple but powerful concept. Like many of you, I am  A Magnificent Normal Person There is power and liberation that comes from accepting that we can be both...

read more
STOP.  December is here again.

STOP.  December is here again.

It is hard to believe that it is December already and we are almost through another year. At the same time, it has been a long and difficult year for many of us.  As I raked thousands of leaves from my garden this past weekend I had to accept that winter has arrived. It reminded me that time doesn’t stop and that our lives are constantly changing.  I am often trying to inspire you to stop and...

read more
Time to Renovate

Time to Renovate

You have probably heard people say that they are going through a midlife crisis or that they are struggling and feeling stuck.I felt this way over the summer. Things just felt a bit off and I was depleted. I was also lonely working from home. I decided to take some time to slow down.I allowed myself to just be with whatever came up. I became curious about my feelings and what they might be...

read more
The Urgency of Life

The Urgency of Life

The past few weeks I supported a friend as his 19-year-old son died. It was a horrible experience that I wish no parent had to go through. During this terrible time I also witnessed the amazing strength that we all have within us and the incredible power of coming together as a community to support each other.   Loss is a powerful reminder of how precious and fragile our lives actually are....

read more
Reinvent Yourself

Reinvent Yourself

The start of September and the return to routines makes us realize how quickly the year has gone by. Every year I write about how this is an invitation to think about our goals and what we have or have not accomplished. I believe that this is a moment for introspection. Nature brings change. Life brings constant change. I am really feeling these changes in my personal life this month. After 25...

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Time for Change

Time for Change

Choose changes aligned with what truly matters to you.I like to think of September as an opportunity each year to stop and reflect on where we are, what we have accomplished so far and what changes we might want to make going forward. We make many daily choices in our lives that create our journey. If we don’t stop and reflect, we can’t make choices based on what is important to us. Change is...

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