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Every month on this blog, I share my professional views and ongoing learning about life, change and relationships.

These posts are my personal reflections that offer tips and guidance for people looking to live their best lives possible.

Find Your Strength.  Find Yourself.

Find Your Strength. Find Yourself.

Do you know where your strengths lie?  What do you feel comes naturally to you? Imagine we were able to flip the lens through which we view ourselves. What if, rather than focusing on our areas of need and weakness, we focused entirely on seeing ourselves through our personal strengths? What would that look like? And how empowering would it feel? We live in a world that is challenging and full...

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Put Down Your To-Do List

Put Down Your To-Do List

Turn off "I should" and "I have to"!Personal growth, learning, introspection and new habits—as a personal development and relationship coach, I am all for these things. I personally live and breathe these positive practices and I encourage my clients to do the same. Yet, today I want to give you another option, that it’s okay to do the opposite. It’s okay to just be. Do less, not more. Focus on...

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Swinging Through Transition

Swinging Through Transition

Change. It’s constant. And it’s in every area of our lives: health, work, family, and internally. I say it often because it’s true: change is the only constant in life. It’s a part of life. Period. So why do we have so much trouble with it? As humans, our dislike for change is so strong that even when we are unhappy with something, we are reluctant to modify it. We often just keep things as they...

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Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing relationships is difficult at the best of times. As we face the global COVID-19 pandemic, we are reminded of how small the world really is and how similar we are. At the same time, we cannot help but see just how unique we are as individuals.  One thing that I am reminded of during this time of physical isolation, is our deep, unwavering need for human connection. We need each other. We...

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Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

“That was great!”    “You are fantastic!”    “You are so talented!”     Compliments are so important to our well-being. For some reason, however, they are also hard to receive. We want compliments, but then we don’t.    For some of my clients, as we discover and clarify their qualities and strengths, I can see how hard it is for them to hear their positive attributes said out...

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Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Why You Should Disagree With Others You should disagree with others. No, really. And then you should agree to disagree.  Recently, after a day of coaching sessions focused on conflict and relationships, I realized, once again, how little we are trained in life on how to create strong, fulfilling relationships. So many of us try to avoid conflict in our lives, yet it is often the very thing that...

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Perfectly Imperfect

Perfectly Imperfect

I am perfectly imperfect. And I think you are, too.  My daughter and I like to joke that we are masters at being “perfectly imperfect.” It is a label that makes us feel proud, providing us with a real sense of relief. It’s also a concept that I encourage my clients to embrace. When we strive to live a “perfectly imperfect” life, we give ourselves permission to be our best selves,...

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Your legacy begins today

Your legacy begins today

As we approach the end of the year, it’s a great time for introspection. Many of us will start thinking about plans and resolutions for the New Year. Instead of debating whether this practice is a good idea or not, I invite you to try a different kind of reflection instead. Think about the legacy you want to leave behind when you die. Have you ever considered what your obituary would say? I...

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Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Healthy Conflict, Healthy Relationships

Why You Should Disagree With Others You should disagree with others. No, really. And then you should agree to disagree.  Recently, after a day of coaching sessions focused on conflict and relationships, I realized, once again, how little we are trained in life on how to create strong, fulfilling relationships. So many of us try to avoid conflict in our lives, yet it is often the very thing that...

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Don’t Assume. Just Ask.

Don’t Assume. Just Ask.

Making assumptions is common in relationships, but it is also what leads to conflict. Many people in relationships assume that the other person knows what they mean and what they want. Alas, most of the time this is NOT the case. Valentine’s Day is today and even though it’s not something I celebrate, I realize it offers us a great opportunity to highlight the importance of asking our partners...

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Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Welcome to 2018! A new year offers so many new possibilities. What are your wishes for 2018? Who do you wish to be? Personally, I have been thinking about this a lot. Over the break, I watched the movie The Last Word about an older woman at the end of her life. I loved the movie and one of the quotes from the main character has stuck with me: Please don’t have a nice day....

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Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Improve Your Relationship By “Double Clicking”

It always amazes me how two people can view the exact same situation in completely different ways. Before I begin a mediation or relationship coaching session, I always meet with each person individually to hear their own viewpoint. I want to learn more about their reality and better understand their perspective. What’s fascinating is that what each person shares with me always makes sense to...

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The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

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Celebrate motherhood and the changes it brings

Celebrate motherhood and the changes it brings

In front of me, as I write this post, are pictures of me over the years with my kids. There they are as newborns, with me looking completely exhausted. Soon they are toddlers, then school-aged and, suddenly, they are taller than me! Each step in their development meant a new stage for both of us. Their needs would change and my role would have to adapt accordingly. This often meant me needing to...

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Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

It seems that as I get older — and hopefully a little wiser — that the days, weeks and months fly by faster than ever. It feels like yesterday that I was sending you my best wishes for 2016, and encouraging you to focus on what you did do and what worked in 2015. Read it here! Now, as we bid farewell to 2016, I’d like to return to a topic I have reflected on often this year: building stronger...

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The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

As human beings we need to feel connected to others. We are social animals and we need positive interactions to keep us feeling fulfilled and happy. These connections, however, don’t always come easy. We need to have healthy channels of communication in order to achieve connections with others in our personal and work lives. Yet, interpersonal communication is challenging. It involves different...

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Reality Bites, But It Doesn’t Have To

Reality Bites, But It Doesn’t Have To

Good or bad, we choose how we behave, react and think. It is these many small choices that make up our overall life course. Do you have a favourite book that you return to again and again for guidance or inspiration? For me, Tal Ben-Shahar’s Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness is one. This wonderful guide inspires me to live and work better. Ben-Shahar’s central premise is...

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What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

I consider myself to be a life learner. Right now I am in the middle of a year-long certificate in Positive Psychology. It has been a fantastic journey and last month, as part of my training, I attended a week-long retreat in the beautiful town of Tepoztlán, Mexico (picture above). In this intensive week of scientific learning and deep introspection, one of the lecturers put on the Michael...

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Reality Bites, But It Doesn’t Have To

The Choice Is Yours

I am writing this post at 8 am on a cold Monday morning, after rushing out the door for an early morning meeting. There was no time for exercise or a healthy breakfast this morning. And I had to take the subway during the most crowded hour of the day. After all this, my meeting was cancelled at the very last minute. And so here I am, alone in a downtown café. In the past I would probably have...

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It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

As a young university student, I remember being unable to decide what I wanted to major in. I liked so many different things. Medicine, education, psychology…. I even considered engineering! I was all over the map because I was trying to keep all of my doors open. This is what I had been taught was a wise thing to do. Unfortunately, it left me feeling quite overwhelmed. Today, the older and...

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Make September Count!

Make September Count!

SEIZE THAT OPPORTUNITY September is here. Kids are back to school and the days are starting to get shorter.The arrival of this month often marks new beginnings with new routines and new energy. And this is what makes it an ideal time to ensure that 2017 ends the way we want it to. With just a third of the year left, here is our opportunity to give one last push toward reaching the goals we set...

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Just. Be. You.

Just. Be. You.

I was very fortunate to spend a week in London, England, with my children and parents earlier this summer. While we were there, we went to see a musical that my mother chose: Kinky Boots. Despite knowing little about the show, I ended up loving its music and message. One message particularly struck me: “Be yourself, because everyone else is taken.”  This line is so true! I think it...

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Why Is It So Hard To Change?

Why Is It So Hard To Change?

I have been enjoying the slower pace of summer by reading some interesting books, relevant to my work. One of the books, Changing to Thrive by James and Janice Prochaska, explains the different stages people go through when making important behavioural changes in their lives. I first studied the Prochaska model of change during my master studies some 20 years ago. So much has changed...

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Celebrate Your Achievements! Even the Small Ones!

Celebrate Your Achievements! Even the Small Ones!

Sometimes it is important to stop. You need to take a moment and celebrate your achievements —and not just the big ones. You may not think it's an extraordinary accomplishment, but the small things matter, too. Anything you have done to make a difference in your own life—or someone else’s—is worth celebrating. Not long ago, I was invited to speak at a conference that included a large room full...

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Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

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Find Your Calm in the Chaos

Find Your Calm in the Chaos

It goes without saying: these are unprecedented times. As the world grapples with the spread of COVID-19, there is a lot of uncertainty. And, knowing that this virus could have a major impact on our wellbeing and our loved ones, it is no surprise that many of us are feeling anxious and scared. That is a common response when things happen beyond our control.   As countries close their...

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Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

A few weeks ago, the world lost a special human being. This beautiful soul was a client of mine for the past year. Every two weeks, we would get together to chat. Our discussions often centered around his special philosophy of life or his worries about the future, but the one thing we regularly discussed is something I think many of us struggle with: what we believe we should do versus what we...

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Small gifts of gratitude. Big impact.

Small gifts of gratitude. Big impact.

The holiday season often brings many opportunities to visit with friends and family. As human beings, it is our connection with others that makes us thrive. Here are two simple ways to make someone else—and yourself—smile this month. Show gratitude Science confirms it: expressing gratitude has a profoundly positive effect on both the person who receives the message and the person expressing it....

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Find the “motion” in “emotion”

Find the “motion” in “emotion”

I apply many of the teachings from the science of Positive Psychology into my life. The one that I have integrated the most, however, is the concept of “being human” and accepting our emotions. We may not have control over what we feel, but we do have control over our responses to those emotions. We can still choose how we behave and move forward, despite our feelings. September brought many...

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Calling Time On “Being Busy”

Calling Time On “Being Busy”

How many times do you hear yourself or others declare, “I’m so busy!” We are a society that privileges being “busy.” Somehow our worth or sense of success is tied to our ability to multitask and to appear busier than everybody else. A few weeks ago, I had the privilege to hear Tom Raths speak at the Canadian Positive Psychology conference. He spoke about the importance of making...

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Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Be Vulnerable. Be Strong.

Vulnerability may look like a sign of weakness, but the truth is, it actually takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable. A few weeks ago I met with a business coach to seek assistance with my marketing and sales. She offered some straight-up critiques about my website, brand messaging and the need for me to clarify who my niche is. With each comment, the knot in my stomach twisted a little...

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Find Your Calm in the Chaos

Find Your Calm in the Chaos

It goes without saying: these are unprecedented times. As the world grapples with the spread of COVID-19, there is a lot of uncertainty. And, knowing that this virus could have a major impact on our wellbeing and our loved ones, it is no surprise that many of us are feeling anxious and scared. That is a common response when things happen beyond our control.   As countries close their...

read more
Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

A few weeks ago, the world lost a special human being. This beautiful soul was a client of mine for the past year. Every two weeks, we would get together to chat. Our discussions often centered around his special philosophy of life or his worries about the future, but the one thing we regularly discussed is something I think many of us struggle with: what we believe we should do versus what we...

read more
Find the “motion” in “emotion”

Find the “motion” in “emotion”

I apply many of the teachings from the science of Positive Psychology into my life. The one that I have integrated the most, however, is the concept of “being human” and accepting our emotions. We may not have control over what we feel, but we do have control over our responses to those emotions. We can still choose how we behave and move forward, despite our feelings. September brought many...

read more
What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

I consider myself to be a life learner. Right now I am in the middle of a year-long certificate in Positive Psychology. It has been a fantastic journey and last month, as part of my training, I attended a week-long retreat in the beautiful town of Tepoztlán, Mexico (picture above). In this intensive week of scientific learning and deep introspection, one of the lecturers put on the Michael...

read more
Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Welcome to 2018! A new year offers so many new possibilities. What are your wishes for 2018? Who do you wish to be? Personally, I have been thinking about this a lot. Over the break, I watched the movie The Last Word about an older woman at the end of her life. I loved the movie and one of the quotes from the main character has stuck with me: Please don’t have a nice day....

read more
The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

read more
It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

As a young university student, I remember being unable to decide what I wanted to major in. I liked so many different things. Medicine, education, psychology…. I even considered engineering! I was all over the map because I was trying to keep all of my doors open. This is what I had been taught was a wise thing to do. Unfortunately, it left me feeling quite overwhelmed. Today, the older and...

read more
Just. Be. You.

Just. Be. You.

I was very fortunate to spend a week in London, England, with my children and parents earlier this summer. While we were there, we went to see a musical that my mother chose: Kinky Boots. Despite knowing little about the show, I ended up loving its music and message. One message particularly struck me: “Be yourself, because everyone else is taken.”  This line is so true! I think it...

read more
Why Is It So Hard To Change?

Why Is It So Hard To Change?

I have been enjoying the slower pace of summer by reading some interesting books, relevant to my work. One of the books, Changing to Thrive by James and Janice Prochaska, explains the different stages people go through when making important behavioural changes in their lives. I first studied the Prochaska model of change during my master studies some 20 years ago. So much has changed...

read more
How to Reach the End Before you Begin

How to Reach the End Before you Begin

Just as nature shows us every year, transitions are a part of life. Soon after one season begins, another arrives. Change is the cycle of natural life and the natural cycle of our own lives as well. With these constant changes in nature surrounding us, we might assume that humans would adapt easily to the constant changes in our own lives. For some reason, however, we often cling to what we had...

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Celebrate motherhood and the changes it brings

Celebrate motherhood and the changes it brings

In front of me, as I write this post, are pictures of me over the years with my kids. There they are as newborns, with me looking completely exhausted. Soon they are toddlers, then school-aged and, suddenly, they are taller than me! Each step in their development meant a new stage for both of us. Their needs would change and my role would have to adapt accordingly. This often meant me needing to...

read more
What is the right way to live?

What is the right way to live?

Is there a right way to live your life? As a certified coach I spend a lot of time reading, researching, and considering the meaning of life with my clients. Is there a better way to live? What does happiness really mean? And how do we reach the end of life and be at peace with the life that we have lived?There are many different ways to live a fulfilling life and it is up to us to find what...

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Why Is It So Hard To Change?

Transitions & new beginnings

What I’ve learned and why I wish I’d had a life coach My own life, like so many others', has been the exact opposite. Either through destiny, chance, or life choices, I have been challenged to start over and redefine myself many times. I predict new beginnings will continue to happen. I sometimes wish my life had gone in a straight line. I’m sure you’ve heard about people like that. People who...

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Our Values. Our Life Guide.

Our Values. Our Life Guide.

Quick! Name five values that are most important to you. Did you easily come up with five or are you stuck at two or three? Do you have more than five? Are you clear on what a value truly is? Your values are the things that you believe are most important in life. They are the principles that guide the way you live and how you work. Values can include many different things, such as family,...

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Menopause transition

Menopause transition

The untold story of menopause: One of the hardest transitions in a woman’s life Life is filled with transitions. And some can be particularly hard as they challenge us to adapt and change to new and unknown realities. At the same time, transitions can also provide opportunities for new possibilities — ones that we may never have imagined before. Menopause is a transition that all women...

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In the “busy-ness” of life, are we missing out on life?

In the “busy-ness” of life, are we missing out on life?

Where are you running to? When I recently called my good friend Sandra to wish her a happy birthday, she said: “It seems like we are always running and, as I get older, I have started to ask myself what are we running towards or maybe running from?” These are such important questions — and the basis for what I want to write about today. In our western culture it seems that we place a high value...

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