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Every month on this blog, I share my professional views and ongoing learning about life, change and relationships.

These posts are my personal reflections that offer tips and guidance for people looking to live their best lives possible.

The Wisdom of Silence

The Wisdom of Silence

As human beings we need to feel connected to others. We are social animals and need positive interactions to keep feeling fulfilled and happy. These connections don’t always come easily. We need healthy channels of communication in order to achieve connections with others. Yet, interpersonal communication is challenging. It involves people with different perspectives and personalities — not to...

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Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

  In the past few weeks, as we try to adjust to “new normals,” many clients have expressed wanting to reclaim control in their lives in these uncertain times. Many have said: “I don’t like change” and “I am feeling uncomfortable with so much uncertainty and a lack of control.” There have also been many questions about “when will things go back to normal?” which had me thinking about why so...

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Time to Slow Down

Time to Slow Down

Time.  Time to be. Time to stop and appreciate what is around you and to do something for yourself. Appreciation is an important concept in positive psychology. It is important to practice being grateful for what you have and for what is around you. Most things that make our life meaningful and happy are typically the small things that happen every day. “When I appreciate the good, the good...

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Find Your Strength.  Find Yourself.

Find Your Strength. Find Yourself.

Do you know where your strengths lie?  What do you feel comes naturally to you? Imagine we were able to flip the lens through which we view ourselves. What if, rather than focusing on our areas of need and weakness, we focused entirely on seeing ourselves through our personal strengths? What would that look like? And how empowering would it feel? We live in a world that is challenging and full...

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Put Down Your To-Do List

Put Down Your To-Do List

Turn off "I should" and "I have to"!Personal growth, learning, introspection and new habits—as a personal development and relationship coach, I am all for these things. I personally live and breathe these positive practices and I encourage my clients to do the same. Yet, today I want to give you another option, that it’s okay to do the opposite. It’s okay to just be. Do less, not more. Focus on...

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Swinging Through Transition

Swinging Through Transition

Change. It’s constant. And it’s in every area of our lives: health, work, family, and internally. I say it often because it’s true: change is the only constant in life. It’s a part of life. Period. So why do we have so much trouble with it? As humans, our dislike for change is so strong that even when we are unhappy with something, we are reluctant to modify it. We often just keep things as they...

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Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Managing relationships is difficult at the best of times. As we face the global COVID-19 pandemic, we are reminded of how small the world really is and how similar we are. At the same time, we cannot help but see just how unique we are as individuals.  One thing that I am reminded of during this time of physical isolation, is our deep, unwavering need for human connection. We need each other. We...

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Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

Do you need praise and acknowledgment?

“That was great!”    “You are fantastic!”    “You are so talented!”     Compliments are so important to our well-being. For some reason, however, they are also hard to receive. We want compliments, but then we don’t.    For some of my clients, as we discover and clarify their qualities and strengths, I can see how hard it is for them to hear their positive attributes said out...

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Managing Relationships in Difficult Times

Improve Your Relationship By “Double Clicking”

It always amazes me how two people can view the exact same situation in completely different ways. Before I begin a mediation or relationship coaching session, I always meet with each person individually to hear their own viewpoint. I want to learn more about their reality and better understand their perspective. What’s fascinating is that what each person shares with me always makes sense to...

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The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

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Celebrate motherhood and the changes it brings

Celebrate motherhood and the changes it brings

In front of me, as I write this post, are pictures of me over the years with my kids. There they are as newborns, with me looking completely exhausted. Soon they are toddlers, then school-aged and, suddenly, they are taller than me! Each step in their development meant a new stage for both of us. Their needs would change and my role would have to adapt accordingly. This often meant me needing to...

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Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

It seems that as I get older — and hopefully a little wiser — that the days, weeks and months fly by faster than ever. It feels like yesterday that I was sending you my best wishes for 2016, and encouraging you to focus on what you did do and what worked in 2015. Read it here! Now, as we bid farewell to 2016, I’d like to return to a topic I have reflected on often this year: building stronger...

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The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

As human beings we need to feel connected to others. We are social animals and we need positive interactions to keep us feeling fulfilled and happy. These connections, however, don’t always come easy. We need to have healthy channels of communication in order to achieve connections with others in our personal and work lives. Yet, interpersonal communication is challenging. It involves different...

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The importance of perspective

The importance of perspective

How people communicate and interact with others is a subject that fascinates me. As human beings, our survival depends on human connection — and our connections depend on effective communication. Yet, miscommunication and conflict in human relationships are very common. As a mediator, I am always amazed at how differently each side can view the same situation. Today, I will share one element in...

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Celebrate Your Achievements! Even the Small Ones!

Celebrate Your Achievements! Even the Small Ones!

Sometimes it is important to stop. You need to take a moment and celebrate your achievements —and not just the big ones. You may not think it's an extraordinary accomplishment, but the small things matter, too. Anything you have done to make a difference in your own life—or someone else’s—is worth celebrating. Not long ago, I was invited to speak at a conference that included a large room full...

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Renewed Health, Renewed Life

Renewed Health, Renewed Life

Over the past few weeks, I have been taking my dog for walks in nature whenever I can. With the beginning of spring—and the blossoming of new life all around me—I am reminded of how lucky I am to have had my own “new beginning.” When I had cancer a few years ago, I promised myself that I would never take my health for granted again. There is nothing like a brush with illness to set priorities...

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Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

Giving the gifts of gratitude and appreciation

It seems that as I get older — and hopefully a little wiser — that the days, weeks and months fly by faster than ever. It feels like yesterday that I was sending you my best wishes for 2016, and encouraging you to focus on what you did do and what worked in 2015. Read it here! Now, as we bid farewell to 2016, I’d like to return to a topic I have reflected on often this year: building stronger...

read more
The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

The wisdom of silence: Why it matters in relationships

As human beings we need to feel connected to others. We are social animals and we need positive interactions to keep us feeling fulfilled and happy. These connections, however, don’t always come easy. We need to have healthy channels of communication in order to achieve connections with others in our personal and work lives. Yet, interpersonal communication is challenging. It involves different...

read more
The importance of “AND”

The importance of “AND”

Posted: October 2016 You have probably heard many times about the importance of learning to fail. How learning from — and accepting — our failures is the only way to move forward. “I never lose. I either win or learn.”Nelson Mandela Failing is an essential part of “doing,” of being outside of our comfort zone, and of moving forward. Each time we fail, we learn and grow stronger. Failure should...

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Learning to let go

Learning to let go

Posted: September 2016 It seems like yesterday, but it was 19 years ago that my first child was born. I quickly became redefined as “Claudia, mother of Jonathan.” Being a mother took over my identity, and most of my time. But, as we all know, time flies by and last week I took Jonathan to university. I had to say goodbye and let go of having him at home. I put a smile on my face, but the truth...

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Time to be, time to stop, time to smile

Time to be, time to stop, time to smile

Summertime. Time to be. Time to stop and appreciate what is around you and to do something for yourself. Appreciation is an important concept in positive psychology. It is important to practice being grateful for what you have and for what is around you. Most things that make our life meaningful and happy are typically the small things that happen every day. “When I appreciate the good, the good...

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Making Decisions: Something to think about

Making Decisions: Something to think about

Spring is here! A time when the days are longer and new flowers appear — and, maybe, a time for new beginnings for us as well. Today I would like to share a quick exercise that I find useful when making decisions. We make decisions many times every day. What to do or not to do — and with whom. Where and what to spend more time on and whether or not we should try something different. And so on....

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The Power of Positivity

The Power of Positivity

Relationships are fascinating and they can be difficult.    I am reminded of this often as my family and I spend more time together in our home during the pandemic. We pass from being kind and joyful with each other to expressing frustration, anger and impatience. Most families are likely feeling the same. In one of these ‘crisis moments’ I was reminded of the concept of the positivity...

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When Perfection is the Enemy

When Perfection is the Enemy

Sometimes, perfection is the enemy. We hear a lot about “giving it our best” and “nothing less than 100 percent” in order to be successful in life. But are there times when achieving 80 percent might be good enough? Of course, there are certain tasks where only 100 percent is acceptable. We would expect nothing else from a pilot or surgeon, for example. But for most of us, perfection is not...

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Celebrating Our Differences

Celebrating Our Differences

“I treat others how I would like to be treated.” A client recently repeated this familiar refrain to me during our discussion about disagreement in the workplace. I understand the sentiment and it’s a great starting point, but I would argue that this isn’t what is needed in our relationships. Here’s why.  In relationships, it’s not enough to simply model the way we want to be treated. We need to...

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Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

Reclaim Control in Uncertain Times

  In the past few weeks, as we try to adjust to “new normals,” many clients have expressed wanting to reclaim control in their lives in these uncertain times. Many have said: “I don’t like change” and “I am feeling uncomfortable with so much uncertainty and a lack of control.” There have also been many questions about “when will things go back to normal?” which had me thinking about why so...

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The importance of “AND”

Find your values, find your way

With so many questions about what is happening in the world right now, I have struggled with what to write. But whenever I question what my ideal role should be during uncertain times, I always return my core beliefs and foundation. In other words, I return to my values.    Now, I fully recognize that it might feel superficial, at a time like this, to focus on our values, but I would...

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Finding Your Courage

Finding Your Courage

As more weeks pass during this pandemic, and we continue to adapt to a “new normal” that keeps changing, I have been exploring the concept of what it means to have courage.   Does courage mean that we feel in control and are not feeling afraid? Does courage mean that we are constantly positive and taking action?    The dictionary defines courage as “the ability to do something that...

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Find Your Strength.  Find Yourself.

Find Your Strength. Find Yourself.

Do you know where your strengths lie?  What do you feel comes naturally to you? Imagine we were able to flip the lens through which we view ourselves. What if, rather than focusing on our areas of need and weakness, we focused entirely on seeing ourselves through our personal strengths? What would that look like? And how empowering would it feel? We live in a world that is challenging and full...

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The Secret To Thriving Relationships

The Secret To Thriving Relationships

In a recent post, I shared the story of my paternal grandmother’s “magic” rings. Whenever someone in our family gets married, she shares her parents’ wedding rings with the bride and groom for the wedding ceremony. After the ceremony, she immediately takes them back. But, with the rings, my grandmother believes she is passing along the “good luck” of the successfully married couples who...

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Finding Answers in Difficult Times

Finding Answers in Difficult Times

A few years ago, when I had cancer, one of the things that helped me through that very difficult time was to regularly ask myself a couple of questions: “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” And “What good can I take from this?”  These daily questions slowly began to offer me different answers in different areas of my life.   Today, our world is in crisis. We are experiencing...

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Find Your Calm in the Chaos

Find Your Calm in the Chaos

It goes without saying: these are unprecedented times. As the world grapples with the spread of COVID-19, there is a lot of uncertainty. And, knowing that this virus could have a major impact on our wellbeing and our loved ones, it is no surprise that many of us are feeling anxious and scared. That is a common response when things happen beyond our control.   As countries close their...

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Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

Turn off the “Should” to get to what you “Want”

A few weeks ago, the world lost a special human being. This beautiful soul was a client of mine for the past year. Every two weeks, we would get together to chat. Our discussions often centered around his special philosophy of life or his worries about the future, but the one thing we regularly discussed is something I think many of us struggle with: what we believe we should do versus what we...

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Find the “motion” in “emotion”

Find the “motion” in “emotion”

I apply many of the teachings from the science of Positive Psychology into my life. The one that I have integrated the most, however, is the concept of “being human” and accepting our emotions. We may not have control over what we feel, but we do have control over our responses to those emotions. We can still choose how we behave and move forward, despite our feelings. September brought many...

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What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

I consider myself to be a life learner. Right now I am in the middle of a year-long certificate in Positive Psychology. It has been a fantastic journey and last month, as part of my training, I attended a week-long retreat in the beautiful town of Tepoztlán, Mexico (picture above). In this intensive week of scientific learning and deep introspection, one of the lecturers put on the Michael...

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Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Make 2018 Meaningful, Not Just Nice

Welcome to 2018! A new year offers so many new possibilities. What are your wishes for 2018? Who do you wish to be? Personally, I have been thinking about this a lot. Over the break, I watched the movie The Last Word about an older woman at the end of her life. I loved the movie and one of the quotes from the main character has stuck with me: Please don’t have a nice day....

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The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

The Right People Help us Make the Right Changes

If you have been receiving my posts for a while you know that I love writing about life’s transitions and interpersonal communication. I have discussed different ways we can befriend change to find new possibilities and how it is in our control to create the relationships we want personally and professionally. Although I do write on other topics, these areas are my passion. They are at the core...

read more
It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

It’s Okay To Say “No”. Here’s Why

As a young university student, I remember being unable to decide what I wanted to major in. I liked so many different things. Medicine, education, psychology…. I even considered engineering! I was all over the map because I was trying to keep all of my doors open. This is what I had been taught was a wise thing to do. Unfortunately, it left me feeling quite overwhelmed. Today, the older and...

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Accept and let go

Accept and let go

Over the past few months, I have spent a lot of time reading and analyzing what it takes to make the most of transitions and changes in our lives. These changes can happen because of our own choices or because of life circumstances. If you truly wish to embark on a new beginning in 2017, start by accepting where you are right now. (Literally, this moment right now!) This is your starting point...

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Learning to let go

Learning to let go

Posted: September 2016 It seems like yesterday, but it was 19 years ago that my first child was born. I quickly became redefined as “Claudia, mother of Jonathan.” Being a mother took over my identity, and most of my time. But, as we all know, time flies by and last week I took Jonathan to university. I had to say goodbye and let go of having him at home. I put a smile on my face, but the truth...

read more
The importance of perspective

The importance of perspective

How people communicate and interact with others is a subject that fascinates me. As human beings, our survival depends on human connection — and our connections depend on effective communication. Yet, miscommunication and conflict in human relationships are very common. As a mediator, I am always amazed at how differently each side can view the same situation. Today, I will share one element in...

read more

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