I was very fortunate to spend a week in London, England, with my children and parents earlier this summer. While we were there, we went to see a musical that my mother chose: Kinky Boots. Despite knowing little about the show, I ended up loving its music and message. One message particularly struck me:
“Be yourself, because everyone else is taken.”
This line is so true! I think it resonated with me because lately, I have been reflecting on what I have learned as I’ve grown my coaching business over the past several months. I’ve realized that it was only when I stopped comparing myself to others or getting stuck on what books told me I “should” be doing, that I began to flourish. The key was to get back to listening to my instincts, to put myself out there, and to present my true, authentic self.
It is normal as humans to compare ourselves with others. Inevitably, the grass always looks greener on the other side. But when you take the time to really understand the other side, you will quickly see that not everything is as you assumed it to be. The more we compare ourselves to others, the more we lose sight of who we are. We stop working on our own growth and applying the amazing gifts that we have to offer. Inevitably, our self-esteem sinks.
Can you relate?
There are many explanations as to why we compare ourselves to others, but the “why” doesn’t matter because the conclusion is always the same. The only way to live a fulfilling life is to embrace who we are—all the good and the bad—and to celebrate what makes us unique.
For my part, I am working on consciously “hearing” what I (not anyone else) should do when faced with different circumstances. I need to apply my unique perspectives and strengths. I must be brave enough to reveal my vulnerabilities and allow them to guide me.
Moving forward, I am choosing to embrace myself—the magnificent and imperfect Claudia. (Because everyone else is taken.) Will you do the same?
Until next time,
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