What Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

Claudia Aronowitz

I consider myself to be a life learner. Right now I am in the middle of a year-long certificate in Positive Psychology. It has been a fantastic journey and last month, as part of my training, I attended a week-long retreat in the beautiful town of Tepoztlán, Mexico (picture above).

In this intensive week of scientific learning and deep introspection, one of the lecturers put on the Michael Jackson song, “The man in the mirror”:

I’m starting with the man in the mirror

I’m asking him to change his ways

And no message could have been any clearer

If you wanna make the world a better place

Take a look at yourself and then make a change

These lyrics stuck with me. I believe that the one thing we have control over in this ever-changing world is our choice on how we see things. We choose the perspective we take on matters and what is useful to us. We decide what to let go of and what is worth fighting for. We have control over how we act and how we react.

For any change start with the person in the mirror.

Change must start from within. Before you can expect anything from others or ask them to make changes—whether they are family members, a spouse, co-workers or even society at large—you first have to accept and create change in yourself.

Ask yourself:

  • What is important to me?
  • How are my actions affecting the situation I am in?
  • What other perspective can I take?
  • What other options are there?

Change starts first with the person in the mirror. When you look in the mirror, remember that the person you see is strong and resilient. You have the capacity to learn, grow, adapt, change, and make a better place for you and everyone else.

With appreciation,


PS: If you are experiencing a major life transition, I invite you to download  “8 Steps to a Positive Transition”. This easy-to-read resource can guide you through change. Let me know what you think!

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About Claudia Aronowitz
As a highly trained, certified coach and mediator, I take pride in helping others find clarity and acceptance of who they are. I will propel you to move forward into taking responsibility and leadership of your life and relationships—both personal and professional. With compassion and a straightforward approach, I will help you discover new insight and uncover opportunities to use your unique voice. From there you can create the life and relationships that you desire and find fulfillment and joy in life’s challenging journey. Learn More About Claudia >>

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